Learning to Be Me

Hi,

How is your weekend so far? Mine has been pretty exhausting but in a good way, just happy that things are getting done including kicking my own butt to get in shape again. ;p But that’s for another blog entry… What I want to express today is my sheer thanks to God that I am me, and no one else. Not in a big headed kind of way, (as anyone who knows me can easily vouch for me), I am learning that it’s okay to be myself. May sound silly to many people, as I am an adult and should already have discovered that a long time ago. But unfortunately as happens in many people’s lives, sometimes we let past failures, bad comments, or our own fears control us into thinking we have to just be like everyone else – as in dress like everyone else, do our hair like everyone else, talk like everyone else and like what everyone else likes, when in fact that is so not true. Even as a Mommy blogger, I feel compelled to make my blog look like everyone else’s blog, but I am forcing myself to just make it the way I want to, as I would be giving in to yet more people pleasing. Well, you can follow me along in this adventure of life, as I learn to be myself, and not to rely on my own strength or talents, but to go where the Lord leads me. Yes, it’s true I’m Christian, and I am happy to be so. Do not let me intimidate you, but rather share what I have learned in my walk so far and what I keep learning in my walk with God.

As our pastor pointed out today, we all have failed in many areas, but God has plans for each of us, and we need to keep getting up when we fall. It’s not the falling that should be our focus, as everyone falls at some point, but it should be our getting back up that we should make sure we focus on and asking God for His Strength and Guidance. But I digress, what I want to share with all of you is that indeed, I will not always agree with your choices, and you will not always agree with mine, however, can we agree that when someone makes a statement about something that is important to them, to try to avoid knocking that other person’s opinion? It’s quite easy actually, it’s called listening. I need to work on listening and not interrupting too, so I’m not perfect. But since I have trouble expressing myself without feeling bad about it after, can we agree that we are all different which is fine, and that when someone is doing something that is just a matter of personal style or taste, that we leave our bad comments to ourselves? That’s something I think we can all achieve. Afterall, isn’t the saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all?” I thought we all learned that in kindergarten or maybe earlier. I’m sure we all teach our kids that, so why can’t we follow through with it? Is it that hard not to say something when you disagree with someone? I mean, unless someone is asking for your opinion, or if something is dangerous in some way, should we not encourage each other to be ourselves and to feel safe expressing our feelings? Should I have to hide my feelings or dress a certain way/act a certain way to gain other’s approval? Or should I feel like I’m less of a person because every time I say something that’s important to me, someone else knocks me down? No. Clearly not, as God does not want us to live in fear, or to pretend to be someone we’re not. I hope at least one person reading this will remember that they are a child of God, who purposely made us each different for His Own Purposes, and that He delights in our uniqueness, not in being anyone else. It is our uniqueness that makes us who we are, and if each of us would feel free to just be ourselves, there would be so much creativity flowing in this world, and beauty. Alas, there will always be critics, which is fine, but please allow for freedom of expression, please do not supress the beauty that is in another individual just because you do not agree with it. I mean, if you’re good at judging others, that is something you need to work on, but please be courteous to others. I am also working on taking the brunt of negativity and rudeness and whatever else the world throws at me, and saying to myself, “Just breathe… do not focus on it, but focus on God’s Truth and Love.” Unforgiveness and hurt can well up inside so easily, especially I think for women as we are really emotional creatures, (my husband can attest to this), and we need to stop and think before we criticize others or ourselves. We need to stop living like robots and start living like the women God made us to be, strong in Christ and free to be individuals in all ways. So as this blog title states, I’m learning to be me, and I’m happy with that decision, so there!
*grins* Now to walk it… please pray for me that I keep remembering this on a daily basis and that I allow myself to do so.

With Love,

Roxy

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